Don’t hang out with angry people; don’t keep company with hot heads. The justification we feel in blaming hooks us for the long run, it manipulates our anger, making us feel okay about shifting responsibility. It gets progressively easier to complain rather than to resolve the problem.
Like any addiction, it has to be fed more and more to achieve its reward. Sooner than you think you have become a skilled “blame-aholic”, blaming sabotages forgiveness. You can’t forgive someone while you’re judging and resenting them. And while you are squandering your time and energy blaming them, you forfeit your right to peace. It’s time to give up the blame game and own responsibility for your life.